One morning a couple of weeks ago I was driving to my early morning workout session. It is a bit of a drive for these one-on-one personal training appointments, so I was feeling resentful and burdened. It was such a chore to get up so early and get my butt out of bed…yada yada yada.
Then, as I sat at the 4-way stop down the street, I realized what I was thinking. Wait, I am the one who chose to make this appointment. I am the one who chose to schedule an early morning appointment at this particular gym.
No one forced me to make these decisions. I alone am responsible for the situation I am in this morning. But wait, was it a situation? Was it a chore? Slowly I realized that I had once again stumbled upon a mental trap I am very susceptible to falling into. Maybe you are too.
I often find myself feeling put-upon when I am doing something that shakes me out of my comfort zone. I know that what I’m undertaking is a good thing to do, and, obviously, it’s something that I WANT to do. However, when I am not tuned in to the inspired part of my psyche that wants to keep propelling me forward, and I am just coasting, I find I feel a touch of resentment towards those same actions. Odd, isn’t it? Experts would say that those feelings were the natural response of your ego. The job of the ego, if you remove all the negative connotations that having a big ego has in our culture, is to keep you safe.
Some would say that the ego keeps you small, it keeps you from achieving greater things, and it helps us to survive.
Do you want to simply survive or do you want more?
It seems to follow, that we need to watch for those little lies our minds will tell us when we are trying to be more than what we currently are. Really tune in to what we are thinking in any given situation that we find ourselves resisting positive changes. Recognize the thoughts, analyze them to see if they are warnings to be heeded, or just see them as the ego trying to keep you in your safe zone. The zone that is the status quo, that is familiar and comfortable. For me, I plan on challenging those early morning yada, yada, yadas, facing my fears, and moving beyond the mental trap. It’s the only way forward.
Can you identify thoughts or beliefs that are holding you back?