Whatcha Thinking?

One morning a couple of weeks ago I was driving to my early morning workout session.  It is a bit of a drive for these one-on-one personal training appointments, so I was feeling resentful and burdened.  It was such a chore to get up so early and get my butt out of bed…yada yada yada. 

Then, as I sat at the 4-way stop down the street, I realized what I was thinking.  Wait, I am the one who chose to make this appointment.  I am the one who chose to schedule an early morning appointment at this particular gym. 

So, if anyone is to blame for how I am feeling right now, it’s me. 

No one forced me to make these decisions.  I alone am responsible for the situation I am in this morning.  But wait, was it a situation?  Was it a chore?  Slowly I realized that I had once again stumbled upon a mental trap I am very susceptible to falling into.  Maybe you are too.

I often find myself feeling put-upon when I am doing something that shakes me out of my comfort zone. I know that what I’m undertaking is a good thing to do, and, obviously, it’s something that I WANT to do.  However, when I am not tuned in to the inspired part of my psyche that wants to keep propelling me forward, and I am just coasting, I find I feel a touch of resentment towards those same actions.  Odd, isn’t it?  Experts would say that those feelings were the natural response of your ego.  The job of the ego, if you remove all the negative connotations that having a big ego has in our culture, is to keep you safe. 

Some would say that the ego keeps you small, it keeps you from achieving greater things, and it helps us to survive. 

Do you want to simply survive or do you want more?

It seems to follow, that we need to watch for those little lies our minds will tell us when we are trying to be more than what we currently are.  Really tune in to what we are thinking in any given situation that we find ourselves resisting positive changes.  Recognize the thoughts, analyze them to see if they are warnings to be heeded, or just see them as the ego trying to keep you in your safe zone. The zone that is the status quo, that is familiar and comfortable.  For me, I plan on challenging those early morning yada, yada, yadas, facing my fears, and moving beyond the mental trap. It’s the only way forward.

Can you identify thoughts or beliefs that are holding you back?





  • I am also at a point in my life of growth and I do a lot of self reflecting. I am extremely selfish with my time and who and where I spend my energy. I recently realized that it is ok to say no and most importantly not allow toxic people stay in my life just because they’re family. I recently hung out with a girlfriend that I hadn’t seen n a while and She told how beautiful I looked and of course I thanked her but I told her that is inner peace and joy! It took me a while to get there but finally I’m there

  • Hi Janelle,
    Perfect timing for me! I have been through the same thing, choosing to better my lifestyle then whining about what I am doing. What a “smack my forehead” moment! Thank you for this blog, I will definitely refer back to this often when I have those moments!!

    Karin Leek
  • The thoughts and beliefs that (I think) are holding me back is feeling not good enough. From my first day of kindergarten to my last day of high school I was made fun of and bullied because of my height, weight, and glasses. And, then, family members “you have such a pretty face, if only you’d ____” (fill in the blank, but it was mostly “lose weight”) That kind of stuff has stayed with me all these years. When you’re told something multiple times a day, after a while you start believing it. ?‍♀️?

  • This is something I have been working on lately. I find it so interesting how difficult it can be to push ourselves to do the things we want. I too have found myself resentful and burdened on my way to the gym. Like you said, I’m the one that wanted this, I’m the one that picked that gym and that time. I always work on reminding myself of how I feel on my way home. I am so energized and empowered by what my body can do! If only I felt that way on the way there! Lol

  • Thank You Janelle. I’m in the process of leaving an emotionally abusive relationship and moving into my own place. This is definitely out of my comfort zone but I know I’ll be ok ?

    Angelique D.

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