The "f*#k-its" !!

There are days I feel like I fight a mighty fight.  I have a friend and mentor here in town who describes the feelings and emotions I’m fighting on these days as the “F*#K its!” 

Yes, there, I even typed out a euphemism. 

And I while I think that is a very harsh and vulgar word, there is no better way to describe this place I can get into some days with my fight to eat clean and keep pursuing my wellness goals.

I am sure you know the feeling.  You are tired, maybe you are hormonal, maybe it’s your mid-afternoon energy slump time, maybe you are having a very bad day or maybe it’s your third day of sugar detox and you would kill to have any taste of sweet in your mouth…. you get the picture.

"But the “F*#K its!” are when all your food addictions and bad habits speak to you the loudest."

They whisper seductively and tell you that you are powerful, you can do whatever, eat whatever and your body will miraculously be able to accommodate junk going in and sitting still all day long and still be healthy.  But in no known universe is this ever the case.

I have come to accept that this feeling is a universal feeling in one aspect of life if not another.  It is something that we all must guard against. 

While I have not learned of any secret weapon to fight against these feelings, maybe awareness is the first step.  When I have those feelings and thoughts and I take a minute to contemplate them, I become aware of them, I can gain power over them.  For me, understanding that these feelings are 1) going to come and its normal and not some sort of failing on my part and 2) that they are just that, feelings, and not an indicator of reality.  Then I can acknowledge them and wait for them to pass without acting on them.  To be honest, I have not perfected the letting them pass without acting part, but my percentages of success are going up.  However, the first step above, for me, was key in starting to have some success though. 

"I had to be aware that they were in fact, just feelings."  

And that acknowledging them and being aware of them is so much more powerful than just trying to ignore them which often lead to unconscious acts like “wow I just ate that whole thing” or “why is my car in the drive thru at XYZ restaurant”. 

Instead, I can own the feelings and try and take constructive action like reaching out to someone I trust and creating accountability to stay on track, getting up from my desk and walking around, going to the gym to even walk on the treadmill, whatever changes my landscape and quiets those thoughts.  And then I can say, “F*#K it” to the “F*#K its!”


  • Kudos to you Janelle! I appreciate your bearing your soul and getting outside your comfort zone. You are authentic spirit shines and resonates with your followers and viewers – you go girl!! I celebrate Janelle!!

  • Totally understand the older you get the weight just won’t come off just turned 50 and when I saw me in the pictures that was my go to word ? looking forward to your blogs and recipes

    Debbie Pringle
  • Well said! Thank you for the tips, I struggle with emotional eating! I’m trying to stay away from sugar and at the moment it’s killing me. I’m going to try and do what you suggested and see if it works! Good luck in your journey I think you have done fantastic. Love you and your family god bless x

    Maria ford
  • Girl I feel like the f-its every once in a while…
    Hell I lost 120 pounds a couple years ago smallest I had ever been in a size12-14 … Then jumped on the f-its and decided once cream was yummier than my skinny body…

    You have not courage than I do Mrs Janelle! I love sugar and can’t quit… But I give you serious props ( wait do the kids say that anymore? I’m 36 and showing it lol) for sticking it out for at least 3 years? Congrats girl! You look like you’re enjoying life now to! Good for you girl! Make your happiness! I’m proud of your success!

    Mary Ellen crase
  • Amen girl! I really need to learn how to acknowledge they’re just feelings…and also to be held accountable.
    I need exercise so badly, but I’m a chronic pain patient …and I know movement is especially good for people like me, but…it’s SO HARD because we know it will create more pain.
    So. I have to figure out how to do this…without adding a lot of pan to my already pain riddled body.
    And eating right? I haven’t for years. Don’t even know if I remember how lol.
    But great for you for having these feelings, being AWARE of them, and acknowledging them! Xoxo

    Lisa Rushing

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