Happy New Year From A Grateful Recovering Stuffer!

Maybe you are wondering what I mean when I call myself a “stuffer”. 

Let me give a little background.  In my wellness journey, I have realized just how much my emotions - and how I handle those emotions - have played into my weight over the years.  I can tell you how many calories are in any food, I can tell you how many calories I burn exercising, I know about nutrient density, low fat, no carb, paleo, vegan…I know it all. 

But there was still something sabotaging me.

I have finally had to come to terms with how much I eat to soothe, to deal and to ignore.  And, in retrospect, it has been going on a long time.  Probably as far back as many of my early memories go.

Once I realized what was going on wasn’t just a character flaw, I had to figure out what mechanism(s) were triggering me exactly.   I know stress is a big one for me, but also nerves, feelings of self-doubt or plain old feeling overwhelmed will also trigger me.  Once I had identified those hot buttons, I have had to work to unravel their power instead of packing the offending emotions away in a neat little box and “stuffing” them down with whatever large quantity of food was on hand, junk or otherwise.

This has been a scary project!

I’m generally very even in my temperament and moods.  I was worried that my status quo would get way to out of balance if I allowed myself to feel and process.  And to be honest, it has, but not in the way I had imagined.

I have had to learn how to stop and ask myself why I want to eat that entire plate, box or whatever.  What is really going on?  I have had to learn to be quiet for a few minutes, to tune in, and to meditate at times.  I have had to learn how to really be open to people, to ask for help, and ask questions to seek understanding instead of just trying to control outcomes.  I have had to try and not control in general (this was a big one for the high planner that I am).  I had to be willing to go with the flow more and worry less.  And, I learned I needed to shift my perspective sometimes.  View lots of demand from family, clients, and work as an opportunity to serve others rather than feeling like I had too many demands being placed on me.  (This step has been HUGE!)

Yes, I am still a recovering stuffer, meaning that I acknowledge I still have so far to go on this path. And yes, I still protect my voice, my personality, my boundaries, but I hope to continue to do this in this new improved way as we go into this new year. 

May your New Year bring you peace and prosperity! Happy New Year!


  • Very insightful Janelle. You could be writing about me as well. Thank you and Happy New Year! I look forward to hearing about your success!

    Sheila Jones
  • Janelle I love sister wife’s and Kody. U r awesome in wat ur doing about ur weight journey,,,,,,your looking great and u look so happy now,,,,,keep up the great work. God bless. Thanks for sharing your getting healty life style,,,,,

  • I’ve really have had to make it a point to think before I just eat and decide if I’m hungry… I know many times during a bad day my first thought will be what I have to eat when I get home. Ugh… hard habit to break.

    April wynn
  • Hello! I’m a recovering stuffer as well! I have to be very careful about triggers and sometimes I think I’ll be ok and then I’m not.. I made my favorite food: lasagna last week and thought I can have one normal helping. I couldnt! So I’m going to have to keep that off my menu for now! I tend to beat myself up over mistakes. I know it doesn’t help but it’s hard to make a mistake and feel good! Haha! However, feeling stuffed is a good reminder that I don’t want to be like that or feel like that anymore. I’m down 77 pounds with lots more to go But I feel so much better. After my lasagna mistake last week I’m back on track this week and hoping tomorrow goes well! Merry Christmas, love your blog!

  • Happy New Year. X


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